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“Like apples of gold in settings of silver is a word spoken in right circumstances.”
(Proverbs 25:11).

Expectations about Children
by Larry Burkett

Even the most humble Christians are quick to brag about achievements by their children, particularly if it’s something in the Lord’s work.

It’s as if we want to validate our commitments through our children. If we are elevated spiritually by the achievements of our children, then we also are demoralized by their failures.

It’s probably time for us to realize that God doesn’t have grandchildren or stepchildren—only children. Everyone decides individually to follow or not to follow the Lord. This doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t lead our children, correct them, or encourage them, but we must recognize their right to choose, just as we did.

It would be great if all children were as smart as most parents and could learn without any personal difficulties, just as we did–right?

Share failures you’ve had with your children and allow them to observe that Christians haven’t totally arrived–we’re still on the way. I experienced such an event when one of my sons came home from college to ask me for help in clearing up his checking account.

He had eight checks overdrawn and $70 in overdraft charges. Needless to say, I was discouraged. The only thing worse for me, as a Christian financial counselor, would be for my own account to be overdrawn (which happened one summer when I forgot to make a deposit).

God used my son’s problem to help me realize that just because I teach financial discipline doesn’t mean my children understand it. I was able to share why financial principles are in God’s Word.

First, set an example; then, lead and encourage your children.

Daily Scripture Reading:
Numbers 19-21